When we visit our relatives, we often hear this child is so intelligent. But that’s not actually what they are defining. They basically complement the kid’s emotional intelligence and not on their IQ. Emotional intelligence is a slippery topic, people usually have misconceptions about it. We all have different ways to show our emotions and different ways to deal with them too.
Emotional intelligence or emotional quotient (EQ) is the ability to understand and recognize your emotions and how to deal with numerous emotional situations of an individual. People with high emotional intelligence have more chances to become successful in most aspects of their life. If a job requires emotional labor, it is demanding to be emotionally intelligent.
Characteristics of Emotional Intelligence.
In a book titled “Emotional Intelligence – Why It Can Matter More Than IQ” 1995, Daniel Goleman, an American psychologist, expanded a framework of five components that characterize emotional intelligence:
- Social skills– People find it attractive to talk with individuals with good social skills. People with emotional intelligence are good communicators too and are excellent in maintaining relationships.
- Motivation– High emotional intelligence improves motivation. These people are usually motivated and make the surroundings too. These are productive and very effective in whatever they do.
- Self-regulation– They can easily regulate their emotions which means they can control emotions and can tackle every situation and these think before they act.
- Self-awareness– These people understand their emotions and don’t let them rule them. These are super confident and believe in their intuition.
More the emotional intelligence, more maturity.
How to improve?
The biggest mistake that people make is that they are judgemental. They make a judgment without even knowing the whole story. This stuff should be avoided. Put yourself in their situation and then react. Humility can be a good thing and practicing this can make you confident about things. Just give opportunities to outshine others and don’t bother much to get applause for yourself. Self- evaluation also plays a crucial role. Admit your weakness and know where you have to work on in spite of giving false gratification that you’re perfect. In the business world or any other sector, it is highly necessary to be patient. Also taking responsibility, the responsibility of your work, or even hurting someone and apologizing. By being empathic and responding to their feelings we can make them feel comfortable.
For example, if you ask an employee overtime and even if he agrees you may see a slight disappointment in his voice, so in spite of just ordering and walking off, appreciate his will to work.
What emotional intelligence affects.
Physical health – If you’re unable to manage your emotions probably you may affect your health by suffering from various diseases.
Mental health – Anxiety and depression can be a result of a lack of emotional intelligence.
Relationships – Communicating emotionally can be a booster in a relationship. Lacking this skill can also ruin your relationship.
Social intelligence – Tuning with your emotions may help you connect with the surrounding. Whereas being anti-social may cut your presence and make you feel less loved and less needed.
The basic idea of EQ:
- Identify your feelings.
- Identify other’s feelings.
- And then reacting accordingly.
Yes, of course, IQ matters but EQ enhances the value of IQ and every organization expects employees to be emotionally strong and intelligent.
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