Do you ever feel dumb about yourself? Do you ever feel like you have zero self-confidence? It happens all the time to most of us. Although you are preparing for any compitative exam , you are doing job or planning something for your future . It happen when you are feeling very low and you don’t have confidence on your self.
Whether you want money, fame, travel, or none of that stuff, it doesn’t matter because it always comes down to this: How confident are you? Everytime your confidence decide your success. If you don’t have confidence on you, you can’t do anything. While giving any exam if your confidence is nill you became nervous and expoil your eaxm, while you work hard. So trust in yourself.
You see? Self-confidence is important if you want to win at life — no matter what you’re after, a lack of confidence will always hold you back. And you never grew up. You are always feel scary.
Research even shows that lack of self-confidence is associated with:
- loneliness and feeling left out
- Lower academic achievement
- Lower life satisfaction
- Never trying to follow dreams
- Introvert person
- Not taking own decisions
- Always confused
- Live lost
If you look up the definition of self-confidence, you always get more or less the same description. Moore describes it as “a trust in self, a faith in one’s ability to be able to meet situations as they may arise.”
But more importantly, she says:
“Self-confidence without competence is of as little use as is competence without self-confidence.”
It means this: Going to business school is competence. But using your business competence to lead a company is self-confidence plus competence. They are only useful when combined.
That analogy goes both ways. Just confidence in yourself, without the competence, is also useless — talking the talk is not a sustainable strategy.
You need the talk and bravado, but you also need to develop the skills to back up your talk.
Building Your Self-Confidence
So you become more self-confident if you become better at what you do. Enhance your confidence, if your confidence increase so your performance as well as success already increase. That’s the system, and it’s backed by research.
The process is easy—but completing the steps takes hard work. Confidence + hard work = success. This is the secret of success and formula to become a successful person.
It goes like this:
- Improve your competencies
- Put them into practice
- See results
- Grow more confident
- Focus on your drawbacks and improve side by side
- Never lose hope if any failure come
That’s the process.
“That’s great and all, but what if I don’t see results? Plus, I don’t have the time to practice.”
If you want to make excuses, that’s fine. It’s your life. But this method of building self-confidence is based on real, tangible steps, and not intangible stuff like affirmations. Confidence doesn’t appear magically by itself. You have to build it and it takes time. You have to stay positive, calm and trust in yourself. After practicing all these then your confidence build.
You can tell yourself every day that you’re confident, lucky to be alive, or whatever — but if you lack the skills to get shit done, you’ll never truly believe in yourself. Revise this sentence that you have trust on yourself, you are confident about your work.
And that’s my biggest issue with a lot of self-help theory and writers. Yes, affirmations, positive thinking, goal setting, is all great, but it’s NOTHING without execution. You have to apply it’s practically not only think or write theoretically. Implement whatever you think or want to do.
How can you expect to build confidence if you never do anything? It’s impossible.
“Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.” — Thomas Carlyle
Don’t fool yourself into thinking that your life will be better as long as you wish for it. Don’t wish only work for it. Improve your skills. Be confident in any situation, never let down your confidence.
When you put in work and see the results — like a stronger body, more energy, more money, or whatever you’re after — you start believing in your ability to get shit done.
Now go out there, do things, get better at them, see results, repeat that process and grow more confident.