Self-control is the ability to regulate and Change responses in order to avoid undesirable behaviors, increase desirable ones, and achieve your aim. Self-control can be important for health and well-being of mind stability.1 Common goals such as losing weight, exercising regularly, eating healthy, giving up bad habits, and saving money are just a few goal that people believe require self-control for being a good person in life.
“Once who control himself can win the world” – Vivekananda. our all great great scholars, Sant, even ruler accepted this great power and determination, patience and performance so they advise and acted, that’s why they got or called the greats of their time.
What Is Self-Control?
People often use a variety of terms for self-control, including discipline, determination, willpower, and fortitude, adequate to live life etc.
- The ability to control behaviors in order to avoid temptations/ anger and to achieve goals
- The ability to delay gratification and resist unwanted behaviors or urge
- Stop your mind to being divert from any useless things.
Whether your goal is to lose weight, earn a college degree, or quit smoking, it is easy to believe that achieving a goal is simply a matter of controlling your behaviors. The majority of people surveyed believe that self-control can be both learned and strengthened. Researchers have also identified a number of different factors and strategies that can help people improve their self-control.
Who have better self-control tend to be healthier and happier.
In one experiment, students who exhibited greater self-discipline had better grades, higher test scores, and were more likely to be admitted to a competitive academic program. The study also found that when it came to academic success, self-control was a more important factor than IQ scores.4
The benefits of self-control are not limited to academic performance. One long-term health study found that people who were rated as having high levels of self-control during childhood continued to have high levels of physical and mental health in adulthood.
Delaying gratification involves putting off short-term desires in favor of long-term rewards. Researchers have found that the ability to delay gratification is important not only for attaining goals but also plays an important part in well-being and overall success in life.
Self-control is also important for maintaining healthy behaviors. What you eat for breakfast, how often you work out, and whether you go to the doctor regularly are all decisions that are impacted by your levels of self-control and have the potential to affect your health.
Researchers have found that self-control can have a number of potential influences on health and well-being:
- In one study, children who had higher levels of self-control were less likely to become overweight during adolescence.
- Another study found that participants who had depleted their willpower on an unrelated task were more likely to give in to temptation when later presented with a treat.
- Studies have also shown that kids who struggle with self-control during childhood are also more likely to use drugs and alcohol in high school.
The belief that self-control alone can help us reach our goals can lead to people to blame themselves when they are unable to resist temptation. It may also lead to feelings of learned helplessness where people feel that they cannot do anything to change a situation.
Tips for Improving Self-Control
Whether it’s the desire to eat, drink, spend, or indulge in some other undesired behavior, one way to avoid temptation is to find a healthy distraction. Go for a walk, call a friend, throw in a load of laundry, or do whatever it takes to get your mind off the thing that is tempting you at the moment.
For example, if you know you have a hard time controlling those late afternoon snack attacks, eat a well-balanced lunch packed with plenty of fiber, protein, and whole grains that will keep you full longer.
Practice Using Self-Control
While your control might become depleted in the short-term, regularly engaging in behaviors that require you to exert self-control will improve your willpower over time. Think of self-control as a muscle. While hard work may exhaust the muscle in the short-term, the muscle will grow stronger over time as you continue to work it.
Focus on One Goal at a Time
Setting a lot of goals at once (such as making a list of New Year’s resolutions) is usually an ineffective approach. Depleting your willpower in one area can reduce self-control in other areas. It is best to choose one specific goal and focus your energy on it. Once you turn the behaviors needed to reach a goal into habits, you will not need to devote as much effort toward maintaining them. You can then use your resources to achieve other goals.
Meditation is a great way to strengthen your self-control muscle. This technique can also help you learn to slow your thoughts, which can help you control any gut impulses getting in the way of your self control.
Remind Yourself of the Consequences
Reminding yourself of these consequences can help you stay motivated as you work to control your self-control. Remind your goal time to time.
A Word From Verywell
Self-control is an important skill that allows us to regulate behavior in order to achieve our long-term goals. Research has shown that self-control is not only important for goal attainment. While self-control is a limited resource, research also suggests that there are things that you can do to improve and strengthen your willpower over time.