“Friends give you a shoulder to cry on. But best friends are ready with to hurt the person that made you cry.”
What is friendship?
Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It’s not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.
Don’t walk behind me; I may not lead. Don’t walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend.
Friendship consists in forgetting what one gives and remembering what one receives.
A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow.
Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art…. It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things which give value to survival.
INTERNATIONAL FRIENDSHIP DAY
International Day of Friendship is July 30 and this is a perfect time to celebrate those people in your life who know everything about you, make you laugh and are there for you when necessary. The great thing about friends is that they come in all shapes and sizes and we get to choose how many we have and how often we see them. Obviously friendships can be complicated and they don’t always run smoothly but the beauty is that they are constantly evolving and there are no rules on the amount of friends we can have and how we interact with them. Whether you have a few close friends that you see one-on-one, thrive in a big, boisterous social group, or make up the rules as you go along, each different friendship type is a gift and should be cherished. This is a great opportunity to do something special for all the different friends you have in your life to show them your appreciation.
DIFFERENT TYPES OF FRIENDSHIP
- THE BEST FRIEND :
This is that one friend who you know, no matter what, will be there for you for the rest of your life. You’ve been through so many experiences together and you know all of each other’s secrets that you feel as close as family. Your best friend is the one who knows every little detail about you to the extent that you can finish each other’s sentences. These friendships can be rough sometimes because you go through the bad as well as the good together, but it’s all worth it because these experiences just make your relationship stronger.
Treat them: Show them how much they mean they mean to you by creating a home-made collage of all the memories you’ve shared together infused with captions of your very own private jokes and catchphrases.
- THE LISTENER :
This is the friend that you go to when you have a lot on your mind and you need someone who know is going to listen, just listen. Most of the time all we need is someone who will lend an open ear without passing judgement or feeling the need to interject, and this friend knows how to do just that. They are truly able to listen and leave their own opinions aside when all you need is to pour your heart and soul out.
Treat them: They love to listen, so get them tickets to a fun music show or an interesting lecture.
- THE FUN ONE :
This is the friend that you call up when you just want to let your hair down and have a good time. They are full of energy and always up for a laugh. You may not necessarily share your deepest secrets with this person but you can trust them to find the best parties in town or fun things to do. They are willing to take risks and will get you out of your comfort zone when you need a little push.
Treat them: Make the effort to find a fun event that you know they will like and invite them along.
- THE LOYAL COWORKER :
This is the friend that you actually spend more time with than any of your other friends. While you wouldn’t have necessarily chosen to be friends with them if you didn’t work together you are happy that you got the chance to meet them because there is a lot of mutual respect between you and you know that you can trust each other. You have a good relationship at work, making each other laugh to get through the day, and you also sometimes see each outside of work because you enjoy their company.
Treat them: Cook a meal that you know they will like, take it into work and find a nice spot outside to eat it together at lunch time.
- THE WISE ONE :
This is the friend you go to when you are searching for some advice or direction. They are the kind of person who has lived a rich and interesting life full of travel and adventure and are happy to share their experiences with others. Maybe a little older, this is the kind of friend who knows how to listen and also knows just the right thing to say at the right time. They have plenty of interests and are always offering new insights on the unique things they learn.
Treat them: Make an effort to research one of their interests and either buy them a gift related to it or invite them to an interesting event.
ADVANTAGES OF FRIENDSHIP
Advantages are :
# They make you laugh a little louder.
# Make you smile a little bigger
# Make you live just a little better
# Friends are the ones who hear you when your quiet
# Never forget who was there for you when no one else was
# A friend orders like a mom, scolds like a dad , imitates like a brother , teases like a sister , and finally loves you more than a lover.
DISADVANTAGES OF FRIENDSHIP
Disadvantages of a friendship are many…
# Friends do not always do what you want them to
# Friends may not be easily pleased
# Friends may take more of your time than you want.
# The closeness a friend wants may be more than you are willing to give. They may want to share all their thoughts about their current job interest for example, but you have little interest.
# Friends may be demanding of your efforts and possessions.
# Friends may say things about you to others or you which you do not want to hear
# Friends my want to drop you after you do something unintentionally that offends them
# Friends may gossip about you
# Friends may give you presents you don’t want
# Friendships may involve arguments
The benefits of the right friend though outweigh the negatives
Well.There are no disadvantages of friendship but there is a great disadvantages of bad friendship and even of bad relationship. Before making anyone your friend….make sure you both are compatible with each other…friendship doesn’t work if you are fun loving person and ur friend doesn’t have fun with u.Now disadvantages of bad friendship are
1.You will see change in your behaviour,offcourse negative.
2.They will not help you in your bad times.
3.They will drag you to bad things like cigarette ,drugs,alcohol,gambling and other things.
4.They will always want to see ur downfall in life.
5.They will use u for their needs.
Is male friendship better than female friendship?
I was a chubby girl during my mid-teenage years who wasn’t good in sports and dance and hence wouldn’t qualify the ‘criteria’ to be friends with the popular girls. Other girls worshiping the popular ones would too try to avoid me so I adapted and became friends with boys. I did had a girl best friend who would be there by my side but unfortunately she had to change school leaving me all alone.
So apparently I didn’t had many female friends but I did enjoyed boys company, they were free and funny. I still remember those awkward times, we all were in the “eww girls” and “yuck boys” phase and I used to be the only girl enjoying with the boys. During the recess, girls would make small groups and talk and I used to run from 1 far end to other to spend time with my male friends and female friends. I still recall how some girls used to look at me as if Im telling the boys girls’ secret.
We all grew up and both the boys and girls became comfortable with each other. During our high school time, it was quite funny to see the girls who used hate the boys so much were now committed in relationship and the boys used to meekly follow their crushes. I still had strong friendship with my girl companions and also with boys who used to help me a lot.
Many of my male friends were quite careless so I used to complete their work, many of my girl friends used to tease me but how can I stop helping my buddies.
Puberty was making havoc and miracles, average looking girls were becoming bombshells and boys were now turning into young men. One day a tragedy happened. Someone spread rumor about me since ‘I hangout with boys a lot’ many of my female friends judged me which hurt me a lot but my male friends stood for me and made it very clear to everyone that what they hear and think is completely wrong. Other boys too supported me and helped me to come out of my cocoon again.
I lost many friends during that phase but who were left with me were my true friends. Yes of course I can’t say girls’ friendship is better or boys’ friendship is better but till now I have more male friends because they never back stabbed me and were true to me. Even if they dislike something about me, they say it on my face and I do reconsider myself, yes my female best friend is there with me but when it comes to other friends, I just have female acquaintances.
I don’t say girls are not trustworthy, they’re; its just I wasn’t lucky enough to find such trustworthy girl friends. All my boy friends care deeply for me and treat me well for sure and sometime because of me, they mind their language.
So, for me my boys friendship seems better.