Trust me its not just you going through a hard time.May be your problem is bigger/smaller as compared to others but no one in this world even the richest,most successful ones are left behind by the miseries of life.
For some who have money may face family ,health issues.For those financially unstable may have great family and happy family.
So what exactly can we do about it after knowing we all are sailing in the same boat.
STOP COMPARING?NO,START SELECTIVE COMPARING.
First of all ,when people tell you or you read a motivational excerpt to stop comparing for better self love,shut yourself off from it.
No individual can grow or has growth in isolation.Good/bad but we are affected by extrinsic factors .
Instead start comparing in this way,
This man has so less than what I have, struggled more than me,still not giving up.May both of us bear the fruits of our hard work and we get what we deserve. If I get success before him,I will help him reach there too.
- TAKE TIME OFF FOR YOURSELF
Steal some hours from your busy day,free day for your self.Listen to your thoughts,talk to yourself.If you have a dream ,motivate yourself about it,give yourself a pep talk.If you have had a bad day,tell yourself that one such incident cannot lower your self esteem because you are stronger than this.Trust me these words work like a miracle.
- Eat healthy & Exercise daily
Eating healthy food doesn’t mean having luxurious dishes or wasting money on buying expensive food.It simply means avoiding junk as far as you can.Various scientific studies have now established how bad junk is for our body.Exercise keeps you concentrated,helps your body function properly.
Exercise doesn’t need to be gyming it could mean walking,running or even dancing.
- Seeing yourself from 3rd angle
What advice would you give to someone who lacks confidence ? Give the same to yourself.Isn’t it easier to give advices to others?
We need to do the same thing here,Start thinking from a neutral point of view. Analyse your decisions as if they were for someone else.Someltimes we get so overwhelmed by our emotions,surroundings that our decision making capacity becomes clouded.Hence the importance of point no.4
Doing things which help us focus on one thing at a time.Reading,listening to music,sketching or any new hobby can channelize our thoughts into right direction.
Absolutely do not shy away from eliminating toxic relationships,toxic people around you.Its is better to be alone than being with a bunch of pull downs.
- Accept constructive criticism,always filter others words by your conscience.How can someone else know you better than yourself?That is why it become simportant to know who you are.Your success,money doesn’t define you,your intrinsic conditioning does.
- Be productive
Engage your costly time in upgrading a skill,talking to a loved one,keeping yourself happy etc.
Don’t just sit there dreaming about if I had this I would do this.Or I don’t have this so I am iun capable of doing something.
Basically,stop creating barriers for yourself. Don’t become your own enemy.Be kind to yourself because you deserve it.Smile often,enjoy your company,because in the end you only have yourself .Friends,Parents,partners will be there to support just like cooking a delicious meal and serving you.But you have to bite the meal,swallow it,digest it by yourself right?
If you have read till here, I would just like you tell you one thing,
STOP SELF PITY AND WORK FOR THE LIFE YOU BELIEVE YOU DESERVE.
SMILE AT YOURSELF AND BE PROUD OF WHATEVER YOU HAVE ACHIEVED.