VIRGINITY : A social gossip

State of human who has never engaged in sexual intercourse. There are also some cultural and religious traditions that holds some special significance of this state. Mostly considered in females and unmarried womens as a personal purity, honor and worth.

Ethic

Most consider virginity important because of the marriage of women as they are linked to the properties rights of men over women, a pattern of long tradition in Mediterranean countries in particular. The socio-biological view is that men prefer chaste women in order to ensure their paternity. Whereas the basic economic implications of the bride price and dowry may have largely disappeared except in ritualistic form, the importance of ‘owning’ the woman for the self-esteem of many men is still evident. By the same token, ‘scoring’ with women represents a method of asserting dominance over other men, described as ‘homosocial’ sexuality. Methods of bolstering the self-esteem of men may have been used less frequently as alternative sources of self-esteem gain in importance. At least until recently, in modern urban societies both the virginity ethic and the ‘homosocial’ exploitation of women have been somewhat more marked amongst the lower socio-economic groups. This will be considered further in the later section on social class.

Understanding Of “Sex”

“I did not have sex” can mean different things to different people. As adolescents grapple with the emotionally charged issue of virginity, their definition of “not having sex” could be misinterpreted. For some adolescents, they can engage in various sexual acts such as oral or anal sex and still consider themselves to be abstinent. Those individuals who engage in a spectrum of sexual acts short of vaginal intercourse consider themselves to be “technical virgins.” When adolescents deny having sex, the clinician should ask them what that means. When an adolescent says they are “not sexually active,” they might be saying they have not had penile-vaginal intercourse. Clinicians should take a sexual history that specifically addresses genital touching, oral sex, and anal sex in a nonjudgmental way. Adolescents should also be asked about high-risk behaviors, such as multiple sexual partners, and alcohol and substance abuse, and about sexual victimization, intimate partner violence, eating disorders, depression, suicidal ideation, and self-mutilation or cutting. These can all be signs of psychological trauma.

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